Ok, my young ones…listen up! Momma’s gonna preach. Yes again…deal.
Believe me; I know you think you have everything figured out. If you have a “life plan” by all means go with and DO NOT let a single thing stop you. If there is something you want to have or do figure out a way, on your own, to do it. Trust me…while I want nothing more than for you to succeed and be happy in life there are plenty of other people who will not. They will think your idea is dumb, your goal is too extreme, and that you are just not capable of ever accomplishing anything. Those my dears are the flippin’ idiots you MUST prove wrong for your own satisfaction and the sheer joy of being able to say, “I told ya I could do it.” So what I want for my own children, and every child on the face of this Earth? I want them to have the freedom to dream. And even more importantly…if you don’t have a clue yet, that is perfectly fine too. You have plenty of time.
If you do already have an idea or think you are interested in something, by all means, start looking into it now. Read about whatever it is (yes I said read it really doesn’t hurt), ask someone questions who knows about it, try doing whatever it is on your own if it’s possible so you can start practicing and improving now. In today’s world, we have so many resources available to us I seriously doubt you will have too hard of a time finding some type of information. I know the first step will truly be the hardest part. When you admit whatever it is out loud to yourself, your friends, your parents and family and just waiting for the criticism to being. Please do not let this stop you. Do not let other people’s fears and lack of knowledge sway your wants and desires because a lot of the time that’s what it is. People are misinformed, simply do not understand, or they are too intimidated and afraid themselves to try or do something different.
While I hope for you is to dream as big as you want always be true to yourself and do not fall into the trap of someone telling you have to do things a certain way in order to make your dreams come true or to be successful. What might work for them, may not work for you. If you feel you must take the time and go through certain steps before you take that last, final, giant leap then, by all means, that’s exactly how you need to do it. Your way, and only your way. While those people may mean well and think they are being helpful, they may have their own agendas and issues which might me steering you down the wrong path. You have to be willing to trust your gut and learn to listen to your own intuition. No one knows what best for you, not even your momma, your best friend, boyfriend, grandma, no of us. Only you truly know exactly how you feel and what you want out of life. However, I bet most of those people will be there cheering you on and helping you in any way they possibly can if you just ask them.
And all of this preaching doesn’t go to just all those kiddos out there; it goes for all of us, at any age. I will admit right here and now I do not at all practice what I’m preaching here. I have had many hopes, wants, and dreams over the years which I have never acted upon. The few times I’d confided in someone about something I wanted to do I’d usually get made fun of or ridiculed in some way so I learned to keep everything to myself and in time let many of those things slip away. So here I sit at this laptop at midnight trying to find the right words to tell you please do not do as I have done. Do not be afraid or ashamed of what you want for yourself or afraid to share it with ours. You never know if the next stranger you strike up a conversation with will be the one to provide you just the information you needed or provide just the right words of encouragement. And never be afraid to be that person for someone else either. You never know what someone else is dealing with and your words of encouragement might make all the difference in their day or life for that matter.
So my darlings…dream big, be yourself, never be ashamed of who you are or what you want out of life, and most importantly be happy. You and only you can control your way in this world so make the best of and make what you can of it. Be brave enough to not care at all what people think of you and go after whatever IT is you want. No one can make it happen for you. Be willing to share with and care about others but try not to let their opinions and thoughts influence your own. Think for yourself. Never be afraid to ask for help. Do not be afraid to work hard. Be prepared to put up a fight if necessary for what you want. Any big task seems impossible at first until you take the first step to accomplishing it. Allow yourself the freedom to have hopes and dreams and be willing to take those first steps because once you do that anything can happen.